THE FAMOUS QUESTION: WHEN IS YOUR WEDDING?

I was chatting with an old school mate of mine recently, told her my brother is married and the FAMOUS QUESTION was asked; “WHEN IS YOURS?”

This is a question asked after graduating from the University by anyone and anywhere. When some family friends come to the house they ask the same question and when you tell them you don’t know, they won’t even ask if you are dating anyone, the next thing you know they start praying for you. Oh YES! PRAYERS. “Ti e na ma de”, “a maa se ti e o!” (Yours will come, we will do yours). Then they also start preaching “You know you are not getting younger…..” They forget that no one can marry oneself. I am also guilty of this as I have asked friends; it is funny because am also not married.

I wonder why they don’t ask “Are you happy?”, “What are your future plans?” or “How is life with you?” I don’t know why we do it but I know it has to stop. SERIOUSLY. If one is getting married, its joyful news so it will be announced, so no need asking. The question is like a constant reminder that marriage is a necessity and takes place just right after graduation from the university (especially for ladies).

I guess this is one reason a lot of ladies are desperately getting married just after University. There is no reward given for getting married at any age. Some ladies marry before knowing the man and some have not helped themselves to be independent so they depend on the men a lot, he is their backbone.

Marriage is an institution; you need to be prepared before you enter it. It is a LIFETIME INSTITUTION, there is NO graduation only matriculation which is the wedding ceremony. Do not feel pressured or try to pressure anyone to get married. Everyone has different destiny and not everyone’s is to get married. Have an impact in the lives around you and make the most out of life. Live to the fullest and try to be as independent as much as you can be. Marry for the right reasons not the wrong ones.

Please and please, if you are among those that ask the famous question, endeavor to STOP. It is really not a nice question and it is EMBARASSING!