TEMPTATION: Who to blame?

Dear Lord, please bless Tyler Perry because for the first time, we can actually see a man has a lot of roles to play in a marriage asides taking care of bills and providing for the family. And it can also be one of the answers to the famous question: WHY DO WOMEN CHEAT? I am not trying to justify women for cheating; I am just a peace advocate. This is my opinion. We always look at things from the male side, has anyone heard what she is going through?

 

Marriage is hard work. Necessary to keep and to do so, one has to try new things TOGETHER. Go online and do some research, thanks to the sophisticated gadgets that challenge internet providers, internet is more affordable and easy to access. There is absolutely nothing one cannot find on the internet.

 

Communication is also key. Not just talking about house bills and other responsibilities or opinions and ideas but pleasure, needs and fantasies. SEX! Sex is not a responsibility, it is pleasure. “How do you like it?” “I won’t think less of you if you show or tell me. I just need you to be satisfied.” Communicate and satisfy or be satisfied

 

In the movie, he pushed her away; he saw competition and ignored it. A woman knows when she has a competitor, if she cares, she becomes overly protective which sometimes works and sometimes doesn’t. Either way, she knows and buckles up. “Flesh is weak but the Spirit is willing” that's why it’s important to be spiritually sound BUT THEY WERE NOT.

 

Men need to understand that some women know how to bottle up emotions and go on like they're not hurt about things they're mad about. That is what makes women UNIQUE. We are absolutely unpredictable. What we love today, we may dislike tomorrow but you can at least make some efforts to show you care which we definitely will appreciate. Little efforts count.

 

Back to our movie, her husband forgot her birthday 2 years in a row. SERIOUSLY! Who does that? Forget it once and you will remember even in your grave. Men, ignore us when we say it is okay, because it is a lie. Surprise us! Make up for it! TRY to make us happy, we will appreciate the effort you put in achieving it.

 

He bluntly told her she'll have her practice in 10-15 years time. HELLO! She knows that already, but when telling us reality, please sugarcoat it. It is not just sweeter but also encouraging. Who says miracles don’t happen; she doesn’t have to wait that long to start her practice. ENCOURAGEMENT is KEY always. BELIEF AND HAVE FAITH like she does. The same faith and believe some women have that their cheating or abusive boyfriends will change after marriage. Sometimes they are right, most times they are wrong. But don’t worsen the depressed situation.

 

He kept doing the guitar act to make her happy; who ever said exploring other options is a sin or a bad thing? Be crazy sometimes. Be sweetly wild. Be creative. We are all children, the childlike spirit to have fun and be free spirited is in us all BUT adulthood can be too stressful for us and we may feel embarrassed. But that’s why he/she is your spouse. Be FUN!

 

She came home crazy and wanted sex out of the bedroom, he scolded her. At that point, he killed her morale and even if she wanted to tell him anything, she knew he'll judge her and scold her more. Sex is not a responsibility which he didn't see that way. Allow the 5 minutes madness/craziness. It is perfectly healthy. Flow with it.

 

We love to be admired, if not all d time, but sometimes those every simple comments like; "You look hot/sexy/beautiful!" “Sexy mama!” “Don’t allow any man woo you!”could go a long way. I term it “Confidence Booster.” We can feel the PRIDE and JEALOUSY in the statement; meaning he cares and make us feel on top the world.

 

She tried to fight him(the devil in the red car) but couldn’t because she wasn't spiritually strong and her husband was too busy for her. That they have been married for long doesn’t mean he can abandon her in all ways including emotionally and expect her to be sane. She needed attention and she finally succumbed to the devil. Whereas he knew what she was lacking and used it against her. No matter how uptight a woman can be, she can still be broken, may not be easy but can be broken. All you need do is PUSH THE RIGHT BUTTONS AT THE RIGHT TIME!

 

Using Adam and Eve for instance, it was easier to convince Eve who had just gotten to the garden than Adam because we're sometimes weaker that's why we need men's protection. We are the WEAKER SEX. We may not like to admit it, but it is the obvious TRUTH. We are more gullible. That is why brothers, younger or older, try to protect their sisters. It’s a natural thing.

 

Spiritually, men are to help women ascend to a level above them so women can be strong enough to shield not just the man but all others around her like an umbrella does.

 

So beautiful readers, with these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince not confuse you that marriage isn't only about the woman but the man also and the absence of Almighty GOD is the invitation of the Devil.

 

Please, I am allowed to express my opinion, so feel free to express yours. Please let us stop living in denial and face reality. Before judging, listen to both sides. ANYONE CAN BE A VICTIM.

 

 

SUPPOSED BEST VALENTINE!!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone! What better way can i start the year on this blog than sharing my first ever short story written by me. It is a fiction. Please feel free to leave a comment. Thank you for your time. Miss Badmus.


Sitting on my chair at work busy as usual my office land phone rang and I picked. “Just confirming u r on seat” was what I heard.

“Any issue?” My reply.

Conversation ended with no further response.

Then, I saw a lady with a box, with my food knowledge I knew it was cake. But for who?
She walked towards my direction. My thoughts were “Lord, let it be red velvet from Cakes n Cream or MonaSweets(her cakes are fabulous also).” “Who can possibly surprise me, get a grip, you are still very single, no one knows or admires you”. “Lord, please let it b mine!” “But I need to lose weight!” “Who cares? I can eat it and lose it later.”

Then she stopped right in front of me, and I felt every eye move from the lady to me, pierced through my skin. The kind that will make one miss a step and tumble down d stairs.

Then she asked, “Are you Miss Tracy?”

Gathering composure, I replied “Yes, I am. How may I help u?”

“This red velvet cake is for you, so is this bag.” I had just noticed the bag for the first time because my gaze had been only on the cake.

As the chic that I am, feeling important I asked; “From who please?”

She replied “Mr Ade!”

“But I don’t know any Mr Ade, are you sure it’s mine?” I said even if I pinched myself for asking. This is how I’ll let this “every lady’s beautiful surprise dream” go. Abeg, probably an admirer who changed his name. I’ll enjoy my life mhen! ONE LIFE TO LIVE.

So I collected it all and gave her 5000naira tip for bringing me this GOOD FORTUNE. Be reasonable, if am to buy all these, it’ll cost a lot more.

A Delicious MonaSweet Cake

Yay! 12inches heart-shaped Red Velvet is mine from one of my favorite places, Mona Sweets. Hmm! This person must know me.

I open d bag and am perplexed!

A beautiful sexy, I mean SEXY, its screaming SEXY lingerie!

Tie-side knicker with Agent Provocateur written across the back. Wow!!! This guy sabi better thing o! A pure tomato red satin with ties on each side. Can’t wait to even wear and get it untied. With matching red colored see-thru embroidered lace top. What more can I say, am not lucky, AM BLESSED!
Nifemi hadn’t heard of it so she decided to google it, like I cared.

Even as Ogo went on and on about it been very expensive and how she felt it would have been too ridiculous for her to spend £80 on a single “pant” as she called it on her trip to Uk. Lol.

At the bottom is, OMG!!! Am I dreaming??

V. I. P.  ticket to MAXWELL’s show! He too sabi “Woman’s Worth!” Wow!!!!

This is truly a blessing! Am so going to form for everyone!

Feeling good with myself to have an admirer with such quality and vast taste.

I felt d envious looks from fellow ladies both married, engaged, in relationship, single and “all join” ladies. For d first time, am d centre of attention!!
YIPEE!! *dancing alingo*

“Tracy, who is this Mr Ade? Na wa o! The man must like u and must be sexy. A sweet way to say he wants to have sex with u.”

“I wish say my bobo fit even surprise me like this for work not just for bed sef!”

“Tracy, na you dey rein o!”

“Total waste of money.”

Different comments I paid no attention. There I was, paying absolutely no attention to anyone but Me, Myself, and my new collection!

BEST VALENTINE EVER!!!

As usual, I brought out my blackberry, took different pictures and changed my display picture to the finest and most visible, ensured it showed the gifts and I, no dulling! Let the comments start flowing and make me feel as important as A QUEEN! I was on top d world!

JUST when I was about to cut cake for my buddies who had brought a knife and plates, so I can get them off my back and quickly get back to my phone to start responding to comments, I heard “STOP!”

I turned round to see d delivery woman hurriedly walking to me. After snapping out of d 10 seconds shock I asked “WHY?”

Seriously what right does she have to stop me from cutting my cake? Abi poison dey inside?

Then she said; “Am very sorry ma, but you are not the owner. I wrongly delivered it to u. The Miss Tracy am to give is in the next building. Thank the Lord you haven’t touched the cake. I would have lost my job now! I just looked at the number of this building as I was outside again. Am very sorry ma. Please ma forgive me.”

Out of humiliation and disappointment, the only thing I heard myself angrily ask was “WHERE IS MY MONEY?” After all, am not her father, I didn’t come to Lagos to throw money away. Not even to someone who had brought MISFORTUNE upon me.

WOMEN HYGIENE, SEX AND MEN

I came across this fantastic article some days ago, very educative indeed. If you think any point was left out, please leave a comment. Don't just read it, share and help someone with it. Enjoy!

THIS IS FOR THE LADIES BUT if you love ur wife/girlfriend/sister/mother/any female, then you need to read it!!

Our relationships are suffering and nobody wants to go into the main problems; we are all chasing shadows tagging it all, “spiritual”.

Like I always tell people, every man is a fan of the vagina and every woman is a fan of the penis. The only thing that determines how strong a fan your husband will be is your ability to make his time in there a memorable one. Please do your best to get that man to enjoy sex with you.

It has nothing to do with age or class; it has everything to do with knowledge of hygiene and body care. How many women can boast of a clean southern hemisphere that is free from foul odour and itching? Girl, what does your man see and perceive when you are alone with him?

A lot of relationships have broken up because of this foul odour emanating from the vaginal area (guys won’t let their pastor and priest know that this is the problem). A good number of men have lost interest in sex with their wives because of the inability of the woman to take proper care of this zone.

Before I go on, I want you to stand in front of your mirror and do a little check-up. What does your vaginal area look like? Is it a forest with several animals living in it, a tiled floor, or a well trimmed garden? Okay, let me bring it down to your level; what is the condition of the hairs down there? Always best to keep it very low.

In this article, I am going to let you know those little things you do ignorantly thereby destroying your vaginal area.

LACK OF EXERCISE 

Are you one of those who believe exercise is just for weight loss? You are wrong. Exercise goes a long way to affect your sex life. A man wants to have his woman fit and flexible in bed. The best exercise to improve sex is the KEGEL, which basically strengthens your PC muscles which holds up your vagina, uterus, anus, bladder and urethra. The stronger the muscles are, the more intense your orgasms will be. Try to stop urine flow when you pee. Hold the squeeze for five seconds, then release. You can also squeeze your pelvic area while cooking in the kitchen or right there in your office.

WRONG UNDERWEAR 

That particular underwear looks nice but doesn’t mean it is good for you. Always go for cotton under wears. Avoid panties made from synthetic materials as they inhibit the circulation of air around the vaginal area, creating the damp, warm condition ideal for bacterial growth. Cotton is the best fabric to wear and if you enjoy wearing silky under wear save it for occasional rather than everyday use. In addition to this, avoid constant wearing of tight trousers, panty hose and girdles.

POOR HYGIENE

I get goose pimples whenever I hear women talk about going to bed sometimes without having their bath. Some celebrities have also said it on television. Are deodorants and perfumes supposed to take the place of a good bath in a woman’s life? How can a woman sleep without a night bath? Some even sleep with their bras and panties. Girl, it is not healthy. Smelling good outside doesn’t mean you are clean inside. Always keep your genital area clean and dry.

DOUCHING

Please avoid those douching products in the market. They do you more harm than good. They are one of the major causes of vaginal itching. Your vagina doesn’t require cleansing other than normal bathing. Repetitive douching affects the normal organisms in the vagina and can actually increase the risk of vaginal infection.

SCENTED AND HARSH SOAP

Don’t use scented or harsh soap such as those with deodorant and anti-bacterial components. There are different ranges of feminine wash in the market. Just get into your local drugstores and ask for feminine wash like Sebamed, Femfresh, Summer’s Eve, and Beauty Formula. These are affordable. I don’t know what you feel about the popular Lactacid in the market; but I can tell you it is harsh for your vagina.

Also avoid scented tampons and sanitary pads. Avoid those body and feminine sprays; they will only lead to irritation. Coloured toilet paper and bubble baths should also be avoided. Wipe from front to back after using the toilet. This stops the spreading of faecal bacteria to your vagina.

INDECENCY

Girl, you keep jumping from one man to the other for whatever reason. I want to let you know that your freelance nature could lead to your trouble. The introduction of sperm into the vagina which has different PH (acid/alkaline) balance to that in the vagina can lead to vaginal odour. Why go through life depending on antibiotics and clotrimazole cream? They will in no time weaken the immune system. You may escape it now but the result of reckless lifestyle might spring up at old age.

Endeavour to have a glass of natural yoghurt whenever your vaginal is itching. Having garlic as part of your diet is also recommended. Avoid too much spicy and refined foods. Also avoid excessive washing of the vaginal area as that can only make it worse.

Maryjane Samuel Achonwa

http://www.newsacross.com/cleanliness-next-to-godlinesslisten-ladies-2/

KILLER DISEASE! 19 MILLION NIGERIANS HAVE HEPATITIS DISEASE!

As Nigeria joined the world to mark this year’s World Hepatitis Day today (Saturday July 28, 2012), experts have said that hepatitis B alone affects about 19 million Nigerians.

The experts, who made the revelation in Lagos on Friday 27 July 2012 during a symposium on Hepatitis B organized by the Nigerian Institute of Medical Research (NIMR) in collaboration with the Society of Gastroenterology and Hepatology of Nigeria (SGHIN) called for collaboration to raise awareness of the disease, which they said is more infectious and common than the Human Immunodeficiency Virus Infection/ Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome (HIV/AIDS).

NIMR Director-General, Prof. Innocent Ujah, said although the disease is deadly, it is largely unknown by Nigerians. He put the global rate of Hepatitis B and C at about 490 million, adding that HIV and the disease “area two enemies” that should  not be allowed to mix.

There are five hepatitis viruses defined by types- A, B, C, D and E. Types B and C are of significant concern since a high proportion of people infected with these viruses may not experience symptoms at the early stage of the disease, and only become aware of their infection when they are chronically ill.

According to WHO, types B and C could lead to chronic disease in hundreds of millions of people and, together, are the most common causes of liver cirrhosis and cancer.

Common modes of transmission of these viruses include receipt of contaminated blood or blood products, invasive medical procedures using contaminated equipment and for Hepatitis B, transmission from mother to baby at birth, from family member to child, and also by sexual contact. Also infected children sleeping next to each other, sharing of razor blades, being tattooed with unsterilized equipment are responsible for the transmission of the ailment.


PLEASE GO CHECK YOUR STATUS. THERE IS A VACCINE FOR THIS DISEASE. GO TAKE YOURS. 




http://nigeriannewsblog.com/19-million-nigerians-affected-with-hepatitis

IS MUSIC STILL THE FOOD OF LOVE?

IS MUSIC STILL THE FOOD OF LOVE?

What are artistes singing nowadays? We don’t listen to the words anymore because they are meaningless. Songs sell because of the beats; that is why producers are getting more popular than the musicians and are also mentioned in songs.

I used to be a fan of D’Banj but I have always categorized some of his songs as FANTASTIC CRAP. If you think good PACKAGING doesn’t sell a product then you have not heard of D’ Banj. I say FANTASTIC because of the melodious beat; makes me tap my feet and move my body, very danceable and good for exercise; it is dancehall. CRAP because the lyrics don’t make any sense. They all sing the same thing: sex, money, girls, alcohol etc… We have so many up and coming artistes in Nigeria but they are majorly crap.

There is a new artiste on the block, May D, he sang “Soundtrack”; if I say I don’t like the song then am in denial. It is also in my FANTASTIC CRAP category. Was glad it was banned, can’t imagine kids singing the song in public. Though DJs will play the song at kids’ parties, and sharp kids end up singing it.

There can’t be song books because there is no reasonable lyric to publish. I doubt if these musicians even write their songs in the first place or they just freestyle on tape or any recording device, if it sounds good, they edit to suit the market. “If you father is a rich man”, how does it improve our economy or add value to our lives?

I was with some friends some weeks back and we were trying to figure out the lyrics to Rayce’s “ROLL” and we all couldn’t after repeating the song a couple of times. They come up with unique yet undefined slangs in their songs. If they give meanings to their slangs and it will be heard more often; if it sounds pleasant though.

Artistes/musicians/singers don’t know what to call you guys; that a song is dancehall or rhythm and blues doesn’t mean it has to be CRAP. Most of you mention the Legend, Fela Anikulapo Kuti, as your mentor but just a very few of you emulate him lyrics wise though. Am so glad not all Nigerian musicians sing Fantastic Crap. Thank goodness for the likes of Asa, Tuface, Sound Sultan, and a very few others.

FLEXIBLE HAIR ROLLER, NOT A FASHION ACCESSORY

SERIOUSLY ladies, FLEXIBLE ROLLER IS NOT A FASHION ACCESSORY!

It’s being around for decades but not until recently did China do us a favour by shipping them down here in bulk. These China rollers (most common) are not supposed to be expensive but due to high demand they are. I guess some ladies think it’s some form of “sophistication” to have it that is why they display it in public. Forget the colours; it is inappropriate to wear in public.

The simple use of these rollers is to create or maintain specific hair curls. I was in the bank some days ago and a lady came in with d rollers in her hair. I have seen ladies on okadas (motorcycles) wearing it especially in Yaba while some others in their cars in public places. It is funny that these same ladies/women will not wear plastic rollers in public because they think it’s embarrassing. Here’s news, ROLLERS ARE ROLLERS! Plastic or fiber, it serves the same purpose.

True it is a ‘fashion must have’ and good quick remedy for curls, but don’t allow it condescend you. You are NOT to be seen publicly with it.
For your information, it is NOT sexy!

FEELS GOOD TO BE BACK!

WOW!! I miss blogging. I am back now! Yipee!! Feels good to be back.

It’s a new week and will definitely be beautiful.

It’s not just about going to church or mosque or any religious house that makes one HOLY, but meditating and practicing what is preached and read in the HOLY BOOK. It is not just paying your tithe or giving offerings or religious donations that makes you a better person but giving if you have to anyone, help and never expect anything in return, and do it cheerfully. And helping is not just financially, it could be physical and in other ways, time is precious so give some of yours. It is a popular sermon that is not really practiced. The beggar you see today might be your angel tomorrow.

Make each day count in your life, live it like it’s the last day. Spoil yourself with whatever you want and can afford and don’t wait for anyone to do it for you. No one will ever question how you spend your income unlike the money you are given which you most times have to account for.

If you are of the habit of not picking phone calls or not returning phone calls, please do something about it. It is becoming a norm in our society to deliberately not pick phone calls. But here’s news; IT IS SO NOT COOL!

I attach so much importance to family. Some friends end up being family. It is really important to keep good relationship with them. They can be annoying and be the last set of people you want to see but they can also be the sweetest and best in most situations. Be at peace with them and try to build a good relationship with them. If you haven’t heard from them in a while, call them. Call as often as possible, just to check on them, show them love, you never can tell the effect of your phone call in their lives.

Lastly, BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT IN YOUR ECONOMY! Don’t wait on anyone for that. Don’t always expect change from people. With ALMIGHTY GOD on our side, we will get there. To all my Muslim brothers and sisters, may ALMIGHTY ALLAH strengthen you all this period. GOD BLESS YOU ALL! Have a beautiful week!

ONE LIFE TO LIVE!

TOP 10 WORLD'S MOST EXPENSIVE CARS 2012

I love cars, REALLY love cars. I have seen some exotic cars on our Lagos roads but none of these have I seen. Yes people love cars and want to get the best ones for themselves in their given budget. But have you ever thought which cars come in the top ten list of World’s most expensive cars for year 2012? Well, you might have expected Ferrari 458 or the $300,000 Lamborghini Aventador, but sorry to disappoint you, you were wrong! This list starts right around the one million mark! So today we have a list of Top 10 World’s Most Expensive Cars of 2012 according to Forbes. All of them are really cool, so check them out!

10. Porsche 918 Spyder

Price: $845,0001
Porsche 918 Spyder comes 10th on this list. It would arrive later this year. It will boast a high-revving V8 engine which makes more than 500 hp, with a plug-in hybrid system that adds over 218 hp. Porsche claims that it has a 0-60 mph time of 3.1 seconds, with an amazing 78 mpg rating.

9. SSC Tuatara

Price: $970,000
SSC Tuatara comes 9th on this list. Its predecessor, the Ultimate Aero was one of the fastest production cars in the world, so you can expect it to be speedy too. It would arrive in 2012. Powering this car is a 7.0-liter twin-turbo V8 and makes about 1,350-hp. This car weighs only 2,654 lbs. As claimed by SSC, it can hit 60 mph in 2.8 seconds and get to a top speed of 275 mph. This thing would put it ahead of the present top speed record holder, which is the Bugatti Veyron Super Sport.

8. Hennessey Venom GT

Price: $1,000,000
Hennessey is famous for making twin-turbo Dodge Vipers and other high-performance machines. This Venom GT is the first ground-up car from Hennessey Performance. It comes 8th on this list. This car is powered by a supercharged 6.2-liter GM-sourced V8 engine making 1,200-hp.

7. Pagani Huayra

Price: $1,300,000
Huayra comes 7th on this list. It is the second supercar built by Pagani and it looks just like a catfish. Its predecessor was the Zonda, which was one of the best looking car ever made. Powering Huayra is a 700-hp twin-turbo Mercedes V12 engine. It can reach a speed of over 230 mph.
Only 12 Zondas were built by Pagani per year, but the production of Huayra is expected to be higher.

6. Maybach Landaulet

Price: $1,400,000
Maybach Landaulet comes 6th on this list. Mercedes-Benz has decided to axe this super-luxury brand, so it is probable that it would become a classic and a future Pebble Beach rarity. This car was inspired by the stretched 62S model. It boasts a twin-turbo V12 engine which makes 543 hp. The things that make this car totally awesome, stylish and original are the color-coded cabin with divided driver and passenger areas, and a convertible rear.

5. Aston Martin One-77

Price: $1,400,000
Aston Martin One-77 comes 5th on this list. It is an extremely stylish car and world’s only full carbon-chassis vehicles. It is powered by a great 7.3-liter V12 engine making 750-hp. It also boasts a unique pushrod suspension setup, which is just like the ones used on Formula 1 cars. Only 77 cars would be made, hence the name.

4. Koenigsegg Agera R

Price: $1,711,000
Agera is a great car from the Swedish supercar maker Koenigsegg. It comes 4th on this list. It is powered by a a twin-turbo 5.0-liter V8 making 1,115 hp when running E85 ethanol. The price of the “regular” Agera is $1.5 million, but if you want that R badge, you are required to pay an additional $211,000. In terms of top speed it might not be the fastest car, but Koenigsegg claims the best 0-200 mph time of 17.68 seconds.

3. Zenvo ST1

Price: $1,800,000
Zenvo ST1 is 3rd on this list. This car is from Danes from Denmark. Powering this car is a turbocharged and supercharged 7.0-liter V8 engine, which makes 1,250 hp. And on buying this car you also get a free $50,000 watch!

2. Ferrari 599XX

Price: $2,000,000
Everyone knows Ferrari, everyone loves Ferrari and everyone wants a Ferrari! Ferrari 599XX comes 2nd on this list. Powering this awesome car is a 700-hp version of the factory V12 engine (without any turbos or superchargers) and you can accelerate to 60 mph in 2.9 seconds. It was built for in limited numbers for some chosen extra privileged Ferrari owners, who can drive it at exclusive track events. The price of this amazing car has not yet been announced by Ferrari, but it is rumored to be in excess of $2 million.

1. Bugatti Veyron Supersport

Price: $2,600,000
Bugatti Veyron Supersport is the world’s fastest car, so it is quite obvious that it would also be the most expensive! It is the ultimate Bugatti you can wish for. It is powered by a quad-turbo 8.0-liter W16 engine, which makes 1,200 hp and custom aerodynamics that help it hit 267.81 mph. It is also a great luxury car. Totally awesome and beautiful, Bugatti Veyron Supersport comes 1st on this list!


For more check this link: http://www.toptensthings.com/2012/01/top-10-worlds-most-expensive-cars-of-2012/